Don't let other people dictate what your goals should be

I had an interesting conversation yesterday with one of my clients. She has been doing very well with regards to her goals but her husband feels that she shouldn't pursue them anymore. Why is it that the people who are close to us try to sabotage our efforts to reach our goals? I see this far too often and I really think it's a sign that the other person is insecure himself/herself. Does anyone really have the right to tell you what your goals should be? If I had listened to all the people who continue to tell me that I'm crazy for wanting to run 50 Miles I probably wouldn't be running at all. It takes plenty of internal strength not to listen to all the people who continually try to stand in your way but you must remember that the goals you have chosen are yours and yours alone.

Don't be afraid to verbalize your goals because it will re-inforce to yourself what it is that you are trying to accomplish. It also helps to keep reminders around the house at how far you have come and where you are headed so that you can give yourself positive re-inforcements whenever you hear someone question your goals. It's unfortunate that sometimes you lose friends in the process of your transformation but then again if they were truly a friend don't you think they would want to support you all the way?

Finally, it may help to sit down with your family and friends and explain to them what it is you are trying to accomplish and how helpful it would be to have their support behind you. In the end, though, make sure that you realize how important your goal is to you and don't let anyone try to convince you that you shouldn't accomplish them.